WHY DEATH AND DYING?
Making the Conversation about Death & Dying, Just another Part of Life
Only a few generations ago, death and dying used to be a natural part of life, a community event involving family, friends and neighbours who would grieve and remember together. It was common for the dead to stay in the family home and for the families, their friends and communities to have an integral part of the death care process. Death was an accepted part of life.
Death has always been the last rite of passage for a person’s journey on earth. No matter the religion or moral conviction of a person, the event of someone dying is the last time that person is formally honoured in our society. What we have seen more recently is a kind of removal from that, where for many years now people have been encouraged to hand over the body of a deceased loved one to strangers… Through doing so there has been a loss of the knowledge around what that really means. There are social, emotional and financial implications surrounding the decisions made about death and dying and often they are not made as truly informed choices. Increasingly, the opportunity to honour the dead is put out of reach for people due to the increasing costs associated with ‘traditional’ funerals. We are keen to shed light on more natural and cost-effective ways of making the process of honouring a person’s death more accessible and achievable for everyone.
But, what if they were truly informed choices? Would it make a difference? We think it would and so that is what we aim to do. That is why we want to talk about death and dying. So that people can make informed decisions because they know their rights and options, know what choices are actually theirs to make and can make them based on real and transparent knowledge of the death care industry.
For a long time much of this knowledge has been shrouded in a sense of mystery. There are some wonderful funeral directors out there who will personally go above and beyond to help a family they are looking after – it is a humbling thing to be invited into a family at a vulnerable time and many of the good directors feel the weight of this space. It is equally true that the funeral industry has perpetuated the mystery and taboo around death by orchestrating their services in such a way that has resulted in many of the decisions and power being taken away from the families; the families are often none the wiser, or they are made to feel as though it is easier to go the standard route– or their only choice.